Astrology for Women's Empowerment

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Welcome to the Confidence by the STARS podcast,

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an astrology podcast that unlocks

the secrets of your zodiac sign and

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provides astrological insights for

personal growth and empowerment.

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I'm your Host and Horoscope Hype

Woman, Dorrissa Griffin, and

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I'm here today with here today

with special guest, Sofia Adler.

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Sofia is an astrologer and coach

who specializes in helping high

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achievers prioritize themselves

and their needs using psychology,

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mindfulness, and energy based practices.

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A born and bred New Yorker, Sofia

traded the city streets for the

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mountains of Santa Fe, New Mexico.

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When she's not working, you can

find Sofia hiking at the farmer's

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market or walking her dogs.

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Welcome Sofia!

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Sofia Adler: Thank you.

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I'm so excited

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Dorrissa Griffin: to be here.

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Yes.

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I'm excited to have you on too.

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I was just so impressed by you when

I saw your profile on LinkedIn.

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I was like, Oh my God, I

have to meet this woman.

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She's done all this cool stuff.

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She looks like an awesome astrologer and I

would just love to be connected with you.

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So it's just a pleasure to finally get

to meet you and to have a good little

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chit chat about women's empowerment.

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Sofia Adler: I can't

think of a better topic.

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I'm in.

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I'm ready.

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I'm excited.

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Now back to the show.

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Yes.

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So I'm very excited and I would love

for you to just tell the listeners a

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little bit more about yourself and what

your journey has been with astrology.

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Yeah,

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Sofia Adler: so I guess I should say

right off the bat, I never thought

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I would be an astrologer ever.

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There's that famous saying, when the

student is ready, the teacher appears.

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And I really feel like the

teacher for me was astrology.

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I have a master's in psychology

from Columbia University.

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And before I went back to get my master's

degree, I worked in marketing and events.

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at SoulCycle, which is a likely

well known by your listeners fitness

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studio throughout the country.

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And I went back to graduate school because

I wanted to learn how the mind worked.

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I had recently had a big

shift in my family life.

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My parents got divorced.

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I'm an only child.

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It was a definitely a

pivotal Moment for me.

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And as a result, I got really

into the mind and how it works.

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And it started with yoga

and then mindfulness.

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Like I was just desperate to find

anything that would make me feel better.

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I'm a born and bred New Yorker.

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I played sports in college.

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I really used to live and die by a

do more, be more, achieve more ethos.

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And it wasn't until my life changed

that I started to slow down.

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That I started to look for

practices that would help me

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on an internal level and scale.

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I thought graduate school

would be the answer.

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I thought, you know, Ivy

League, master's degree.

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In psychology, I'll be set.

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This is how I'm going to help people.

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This is how I'm going to help myself.

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And I did start off with, you know,

Ended up being a really successful

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kind of traditional corporate mindset

and leadership coaching business.

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And I still had this nagging

thought of something's missing.

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There's gotta be more out there.

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Like, something is off.

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That voice didn't stop

until I found astrology.

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Until I have now come to realize I found

a tool that doesn't just give your mind

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something to chew on, doesn't just allow

you to think about yourself in a new way

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and provide a new language and framework,

but also addresses the parts of you that

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cannot be contained by your human body

that aren't necessarily logical, right?

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And, and kind of understood by the mind.

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As I see it, astrology really addresses

the multitude of what makes us who we are.

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It addresses and acknowledges

the multidimensional nature of

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what it is to be a human being.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Wow.

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Yeah, I really resonate with that.

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I totally agree.

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Astrology does do a much better job

of encapsulating all the layers of

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who you are in a way that I think

a lot of people don't experience

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through a lot of other modalities.

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It gives you an insight into

yourself, that person that

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only you know inside your head.

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And people are like, wow, I didn't

realize you can pick all of that up

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and really give me a better insight

into who I am and how I think

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and how I move about the world.

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Like that's what's

really powerful about it.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah.

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You know what a lot of people,

astrology obviously is super popular,

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which we love and it's, it's not only

popular, but it's cool and hip and

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while that's great, I think that the

root, the core of astrology, why it

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matters, what it does has really been

lost in translation due to the rise in

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stardom, should we say, for the stars.

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When we look at the What I'm looking at

is a picture of where all the planets were

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in the sky the moment that you were born.

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I'm getting a snapshot of what the

energetic imprint was the moment that

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you came to life as a human, right?

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You took your first breath.

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But the reason that this matters

and is significant is because your

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soul doesn't just choose this life.

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It also chooses your moment of birth.

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The moment that you were born, the

way in which you were born, the timing

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of your birth, whether you were early

or late, or came by surprise, or came

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in like this, or it took a while.

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All of that is written in the chart.

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So to your point, astrology reveals

what our soul chose for us in this life.

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It goes beyond our

professional development.

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You know, quiz or breakdown.

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It really addresses who we, not only

who we are, but who we're meant to be.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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And I love hearing about your journey,

how you found your way through your

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own business, and then you went to

graduate school, took psychology.

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That was actually a field

that I was very interested in.

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And I actually have a

marketing background as well.

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And it's so crazy how psychology

and marketing are just.

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really cousins or maybe

even sisters of each other.

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But then like still feeling like

there's something else, there's

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something more, there's something

that I feel like I want to get to.

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And that's kind of what led you to

astrology as a profession for yourself.

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I think that's really magnificent.

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Sofia Adler: Thank you.

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I really appreciate it.

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And again, like for everyone listening,

you never know where life will take you.

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It's one choice after the next.

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When I became an

astrologer, I was terrified.

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My friends are lawyers and

docents and, or not docents,

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excuse me, curators of museums.

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My friends are consultants and, and have

what I would call like these really like

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high ticket, like really impressive.

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Kind of traditional corporate careers.

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And when I decided I was going to

really do this, I was like, Oh my God,

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like, what are people going to say?

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What are they going to think?

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Like, God, what are my

parents going to think?

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Like, Jesus.

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And it was, in the end, the

joke was on me because it was

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really beautiful to see how.

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My family, my friends rallied around me

and were like, yeah, this is amazing.

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Do it.

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And it goes to show, like, I never would

have become an astrologer or leaned

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into who I am fully and completely

without being buoyed by astrology.

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Without that support from being

like, oh, yeah, like, I'm validated.

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I'm affirmed.

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Like, those two words I hear

from my clients all the time.

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And it, you know, the stars

empowered me to friggin go for it.

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And then I did.

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And life has just unfolded in a way

that I never would have expected.

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I always say, if you would ask 18 year

old me, like ahead, like just go a couple

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of years, more than a couple, but you

know, whatever, you're going to be an

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astrologer and have your own business.

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I think I would have been like,

what are you talking about?

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Like, no way.

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So I'm lucky.

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I'm grateful.

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It's, again, it's wild

to see how life unfolds.

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I think when we allow it to unfold, when

we don't control, when we don't feel like

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we have to follow a certain path, because

The universe always knows better, has

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bigger dreams, and, and more opportunities

than are available to us in our minds.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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That the universe, I love

Oprah's quote, the universe will

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dream a bigger dream for you.

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I wrote this.

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I mean.

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But yeah.

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She's perfect.

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Of course she is.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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And speaking of perfect, like, I feel

like you and I are like a perfect

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connection too because I was reading your.

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Your website and you're an Aries

with Aquarius, rising Aquarius moon.

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And I was like, Oh my God, I'm

probably going to really vibe out.

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Cause I'm an Aquarius sun

and rising and a Pisces moon.

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So I was like, we're going to vibe

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Sofia Adler: out.

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Oh yeah.

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Oh yeah, for sure.

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I mean.

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Aquarians are a vibe.

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They're just, they're just a vibe.

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A whole vibe.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Yeah, I was

really excited to, to talk with you.

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And just like on the topic of women's

empowerment, we have so many amazing

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things that have happened during Pisces

season already, but we're, what's really

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going to be, I think, a really pivotal

time for everybody is Aries season and

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coming up this, this, uh, This month,

and it's so pivotal that Pisces and Aries

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take place during Women's History Month.

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And I just think those things

are like not coincidental.

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I think, especially during this

time, we have eclipse season coming

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up, so many different things.

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And I think it's just going to be a

really pivotal time and the topic of

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women's empowerment, the topic of.

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Women really having ownership of

themselves, I think, are really

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what we're going to see during

the season, during this year.

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Big shift in that.

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And so I would love to get your take

on this women's empowerment and kind

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of like what your views about how we as

women can really step into our own and

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really own who we are and move forward.

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Not this, not just this month,

but just in general using

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astrology or whatever modalities?

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Sofia Adler: Yeah, such a good

question and I'm honored to answer it.

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At the most macro level, what astrology

is doing is it is affirming, confirming

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that there's something going on here.

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That we are all connected.

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That you and me, we are One with

the earth and the trees and the

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planets and the animals, the land.

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We are brought up in a world that has

taught us to think that everything

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is separate and equally that we

have to be like everybody else.

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Whereas when you really lean in and you're

like, oh, damn, like, I I am connected

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to the frickin planets, like, it's pretty

remarkable and crazy, like, I have done

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hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of

readings and I have never met anybody that

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doesn't resonate with their birth chart.

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On a big picture, without even getting

into the nitty gritty of your sun sign

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or the current season we're in and

things of that nature, you can just

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take a step back and be like, wow,

like, I am connected to the planets.

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I am magic.

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Like, it's really wild.

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And, and really remarkable and

astonishing and abundant to think

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about ourselves from that perspective.

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And equally, when you consider that you

are one with the universe and also a

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unique expression of all that is, right?

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You and I are one and the same, and we're

also incredibly different and unique.

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We've each been assigned, or our

soul has chosen, if you will, our

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own way to bring our magic to life.

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And that's what astrology

helps you figure out.

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It helps you see who you are meant to

be, your potential of who you can be.

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What I often find with people

is that they're super heavy in

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a specific part of their chart.

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So for example, Someone might have a

Scorpio stellium and an Aquarius stellium,

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but they're super in their Scorpio.

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And I'm like, listen, we don't

want to get rid of your Scorpio.

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I love this about you, but we

got to pull out the Aquarius.

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We got to pull out these

other parts of you.

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Not only do we compare ourselves to

others, but we also Especially as

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women, it often feels unsafe or is

taught that it's wrong to embrace

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the bigness of who we are, to

really allow all of us to be seen.

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And you can make these

connections on so many levels.

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What about all of the messaging around

the size body a woman's supposed to have?

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It's just, it is endless, right?

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And so using astrology, using, and by

the way, I really consider astrology

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an energy practice, and I can share

more about that if that's okay.

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of interest and exciting here, but I

think astrology really at its core, and

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you spoke to this in our intro, astrology

helps you remember who the hell you are.

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And it is as micro as your specific

quirks and talents and gifts and growth

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edges, and it's as macro as, damn, like,

I'm alive, and I'm alive now, and me and

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the trees are connected, and the animals

and the earth, and like, it is my duty,

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my purpose to be and express who I am.

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Me.

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My vibe.

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My energy.

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My passions.

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I actually wrote this in

an Instagram post today.

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There's 8 billion people in the world.

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And there's only one you.

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And so, that famous saying,

Who am I to do this?

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The question really

becomes, who are you not to?

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Astrology provides that new language,

that new framework, that new toolkit

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to help you kind of snap to it

and be like, so this is who I am.

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So this is the power that I possess.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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It really can.

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I, I really resonate with that.

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That was actually part of my experience

with feeling that affirmation

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of who I am through astrology.

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It was one in which I was questioning,

okay, should I do this with my?

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Career paths, should I do that and

having that reading and kind of getting

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that understanding of myself and really

saying, yeah, I do have these skills.

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I do have these gifts.

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I do have this way of seeing

the world that is uniquely mine.

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And if I don't take the time

to express that, to live that,

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to allow that to be present.

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And how I exist.

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I'm missing that part of myself and

I'm missing out on life in that way.

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And who wants that?

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Who wants to look back on life and

be like, man, I had it right there.

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I knew it, but I didn't choose

to go with that and honor

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that intuition about who I am.

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So I totally resonate with that.

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And I think that's one of the things

that we get reminded about with

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women's history month, how much we

are, in a sense, through society.

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Even throughout history, taught to

play small, taught to really not fully

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express and accept who we are as whole

human beings, but instead a role or

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a service that we provide through the

fact that we're feminine or we, we are

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women or we have feminine qualities.

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And that's the world's loss, but

that's why I was really excited

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about this season and this year in

particular, because I feel like a lot

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of that is going to shift quickly.

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A lot of that is just going

to be something that's not

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going to be holding us back.

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I mean, when you think, when you look at

technology, I feel like a lot of the roles

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that were traditionally done by women,

secretarial work, a lot of note taking, AI

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is taking all those responsibilities away.

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And I think it's freeing women

up to really say, I don't

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have to be a clerical worker.

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I don't have to be someone who is

waiting in the wings to do this, that,

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and the third at someone else's service.

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I can be.

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In a leading role, I can really

have ownership of who I am.

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And I would love to dive deeper into

that and kind of figure out from your

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perspective as an astrologer, how can we

tap into more of that energy and saying,

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this is a time for me, this is a way

that I can really let go of the barriers.

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And the limitations that other

people have placed on me and

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really take ownership of who I am.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah, I think what really

comes to mind as an exercise is Sit

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down, maybe you meditate or just

close your eyes to get quiet, and then

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write out a list of like, what are the

rules that I think I need to follow?

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Right?

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And these are sneaky, by the way.

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Like, these are sneaky rules.

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Like, this might be something that

you are doing for a long time.

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The reason that I start with that, what

rules are you following, is because

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then the question Who made this rule?

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Did I?

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Like, right?

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Because it's like, oh

my god, we are adults.

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Like, if we're gonna follow rules, I'm not

saying go out and break the law and all

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these things, but like, if you're gonna

be following a list of these rules, you

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damn well better be the one who made them.

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Or, or at least know, know

who gave you those rules.

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Know who you are following.

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Know who you are choosing

to say yes to over yourself.

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Because I think what is really coming

to mind for me, it's not gonna be.

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It's not going to be kind of

permanent until the end of this

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year, but Pluto moving into Aquarius.

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Pluto is in Aquarius now, it's going

to dip back into Capricorn one last

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time, and then it's going to move back

into Aquarius at the end of the year

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and stay in Aquarius moving forward.

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Pluto in Aquarius really speaks

to this energy of like, As I

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see it, all bets are off, right?

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Aquarius is the rebel.

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Aquarius waves that freak flag high.

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Aquarius, though, wants to fit in.

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Wants to fit in, but doesn't want to

conform to be like everybody else, right?

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I always say to my Aquarian clients,

community for you means that there

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are people around, they're doing

their thing, but they're supporting

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you and you doing your thing, right?

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It's not that we're all meant to

be like each other, but Aquarius

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is really This, this commitment,

this reverence for authenticity,

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for being our own unique selves.

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And so Pluto, uh, a generational

kind of societal influencing planet,

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for those who aren't as familiar.

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Pluto's M O.

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Cos every planet has an agenda, is

transformation, is change, is looking

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at what needs to be alchemized.

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What needs, what is lead that

needs to be turned into gold?

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And so, Pluto in Aquarius to me

really speaks to an encouragement

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on a macro level of, Be you.

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Drop the, drop the shoulds, drop the

rules, drop the things that you have

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subconsciously or consciously, the masks

that you have put on to fit in, to belong.

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Again, when I say Aquarius wants

their free flag to fly, it doesn't

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mean they want to be solo out in

the desert somewhere by themselves.

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It's more that they want to create a

new future that doesn't echo the past.

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And so, in order to step out of these

clerical roles, or the boxes that women

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have been put in over the years that are

being broken both by women and also, to

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your point, by changes in society, um, I

think you first gotta know who you are.

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And authentic expression changes.

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What's authentic for me this month might

not be authentic for me next month,

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might not be authentic for me next year.

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And that's okay.

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But the more you know yourself The more

you get clear on, I like this, I, I

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don't actually think I like this, or I

thought I didn't like that, but damn,

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like, I love it, it's super exciting.

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The more that you can lean

into your unique, authentic

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expression, the rest will follow.

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Wow, yeah.

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And it's crazy to think about, like,

what are the things, like, I remember,

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I remember when I first was out of my

corporate job, and I was in grad school,

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and I said something, Once of like,

well yeah, you work from nine to six.

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And the person was like,

oh, I didn't know that.

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And it was like this realization of

like, right, I'm following a rule about

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when and how long I'm supposed to work.

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But I didn't make this rule, right?

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Corporate America made the rule.

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Working at the time I

lived in New York City.

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Working in New York City made the rule.

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So it's sneaky, the influences.

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That have hold

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Dorrissa Griffin: over us.

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Yeah, it really is.

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And so pervasive and being able, as you

said, to really take stock of who you

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are and then what rules or what things

you feel are requirements that you

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have to adhere to, to be a certain way,

really taking ownership of what that is.

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And parsing out, okay, this is the

expectation, but this is what I want.

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This is how I feel that

fits or works better for me.

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And not allowing yourself to always be

so, I guess, restricted by those things.

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And I think that's.

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Very much like you said, the Pluto

and Aquarius, that's very Aquarian,

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like going deep subterranean

through the Pluto part of it.

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But then also with the Aquarius,

Aquarius is going to know the rules.

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They're going to learn the

rules, but that doesn't mean

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they're going to stick to them.

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Sofia Adler: Nope.

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That is certainly right.

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Aquarius likes to learn the rules so you

can decide which ones you want to bring.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Exactly.

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So I would encourage people to really tap

into that as we're getting and shifting

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these energies and find that inside

of you to figure out what's working

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for me, what isn't working for me.

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How can I go about figuring out why that

isn't working for me and then changing

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those things in incremental or radical

ways, however it fits, you know, for you.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah, and something

else that comes to mind too is

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we have to be open to change.

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Like, I think that people talk

a lot about fear of change, but

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in reality, what's scarier is

everything staying the same forever.

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And the cosmos and astrology

really teach us that.

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With Mercury retrogrades, with

eclipses, with the changing of

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zodiac seasons, if you look at the

energies of the stars and the planets.

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It's constantly in flux and inflow.

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It's constantly moving.

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So I think that that's something too

of like taking note of what limiting

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stories are you telling yourself?

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Like where are you keeping yourself

boxed in or telling yourself that

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everything has to stay the same?

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Part of this new version of self

that Women are being called to

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step into, and by new I really

just mean like, unexpressed.

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I don't mean that, oh, you

have to find a new s It's like,

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it's always in you, right?

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Like, women's empowerment.

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It's like, be the woman you know you're

meant to be without society telling

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you to be small, and all the things.

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Um, But like, it's okay

for things to change.

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It's okay for things to be in

flux and in flow, to go with it.

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It doesn't need to be rigid.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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It does not need to be rigid.

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And I love how, when you talked about.

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Your transition into astrology, you

kind of mentioned some of the stages

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in your life and then some of the

fears that you personally had about

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taking on this new role or taking on

this new way of of being you and using

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astrology as a way to help other people.

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I would love if you could like,

maybe give people some ideas about

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really doing that for themselves.

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I wanted to read a statistic

from the Pew Center.

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About the gender pay gap, as you

know, that's like a huge, huge thing.

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The difference between the many,

the median earnings of men and women

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has remained flat in the United

States for over two decades now.

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And in 20, 2022, the U S.

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A woman typically earned 82 cents

for every dollar a man earned.

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And that's on average, I think if you

break that down by demographics in

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terms of race is even lower than that.

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And that the main reason why women or

people in general in the study felt

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that women were earning less is because

they were being treated differently

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and they had a different, um, choice

or different circumstances about the

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work and family balance dynamic, as

well as they were working in jobs that

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typically just paid less in general.

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And as an entrepreneur, the

both of us are entrepreneurs.

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I really feel like that's something

that is also shifting in the world.

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I'm not encouraging everybody to

necessarily go out and start a

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job, start a new business tomorrow,

but you know, that is an option.

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That is an opportunity.

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And for people who are looking to maybe

shift into, let's just say a different

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role in life, maybe not necessarily a

different business or whatever, but like

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a different role in life, what might be

some suggestions that you would have for

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them to be able to Assess that and make

that shift and to be fearless about it.

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How to like, really

think about their fears.

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Cause like you mentioned your

family, like, what would they say

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or what would they think about me?

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And then all of a sudden you announce

it and they're like, that's awesome.

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You know, and it's like crazy.

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How would you like.

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Coach somebody into making those

types of changes in their lives.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah.

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And what you're asking is so much of

the work that I do with my clients.

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And, and I would say this one, I won't

lie as a double Aquarius and an Aries,

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I'm not only an Aries sun, but I'm

a Aries, Venus, and Mercury as well.

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I'm kind of an energetically

wired to like, go for it, to

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take the risk, to do the thing.

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So.

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I need to acknowledge that.

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It wasn't easy for me, but it's

definitely, I think based on other

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energetic profiles out there,

it was easier for me to be sure.

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But you know, this is, I'm pretty sure

Martha Beck said this originally, but

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one, go towards what feels warm, right?

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What lights you up?

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What makes you feel alive?

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What ignites a fire in your belly?

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Go towards those things.

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Because I will also say, my

astrology business just took off.

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Right?

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Because it's what I'm meant to be doing.

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And so, we've been taught that we

need to struggle, that we have to do,

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like, it always has to be hard work.

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And I'm certainly not implying that

we shouldn't work hard, even though

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my astrology business took off.

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Entrepreneurship is not

for the faint of heart.

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But there's so much success to be found,

personal success, meaning, purpose,

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in doing something that lights you up.

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So that's kind of a first thing.

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I would say that's kind of for the person

that's like, I want to do something

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else, but I don't know what it is.

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Start taking note.

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What are the things that feel warm?

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What lights you up?

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What feels exhilarating and exciting?

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The other thing to consider is,

Discernment around discomfort.

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And what I mean by that is, we've been

taught that discomfort is a signal

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of something being wrong or bad.

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Instead of having the wherewithal

and the recognition that in order to

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change, in order to carve out a new life

path, to pivot careers, to walk in a

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different direction, you're going to be

uncomfortable because it's unfamiliar.

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Even when it feels like the

110 percent right thing to do.

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You likely won't feel super cozy

and at ease because the thing that

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you were doing before, in some

sense, felt comfortable, right?

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It felt familiar.

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So a lot of times I get from people, oh,

you know, it's like the discomfort stops

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them before they've even tried or started.

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Or they think, well, because I'm

uncomfortable, because things feel

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wrong, then that means it's not right.

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And so having the wherewithal, talking

it out with someone, leaning on the

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stars, right, what do the cosmos

have to say based on the timing of

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your life, to really consider, Am

I uncomfortable because I'm doing

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something I've never done before?

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Or am I uncomfortable because

I'm really going down the wrong

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Dorrissa Griffin: path here?

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Yeah, I think those are great

suggestions and it's so powerful.

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I was actually like joking with

myself today and I was thinking

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about how can we help people.

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make these shifts and take

advantage of these new energies

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that are presenting themselves.

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And the song from The Great Prince

came to mind, and it's gonna sound

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kind of cheesy, but I loved it.

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And there's a song he has

called The Beautiful Ones.

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And at the climax of the song, he

says, I may not know where I'm going.

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I may not know what I need,

but one thing's for certain.

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I know what I want.

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And I was like, that's it.

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Sofia Adler: Yes, that's totally it.

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And also normalizing that.

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I always say to my clients,

clarity is based on action.

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You have to do something to get clear.

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Clarity doesn't just appear, right?

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And of course, it's funny, I'm sitting

here smirking to myself, I'm like, this

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: 00:32:47

is the reminder you needed today, kid.

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But clarity comes from doing things, from

trying it out, from taking action, because

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you don't know what you don't know.

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: 00:32:59

You gotta put one foot

in front of the other.

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So you have to start.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Yeah, you gotta start.

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Sofia Adler: You gotta start.

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And also, the last thing I would say is,

You reserve the right to change your mind.

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I think too, what can hold people

back from starting a new path or doing

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something new or walking a new line,

if you will, is that they're like,

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Oh my God, what's going to happen?

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It's like, you're not

stuck in this forever.

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You get to pivot.

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You get to change.

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: 00:33:30

It's your life.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Right.

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You have to take ownership and

really know that even if you take

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ownership, a step and you think,

Oh man, this wasn't what I needed.

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Make another one.

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Take incremental change.

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If you can start small and make little

shifts, those make all the difference.

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And those things add up to really,

really big changes in your life.

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But like Sofia said, you have to

start, you have to make those changes.

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You have to make those shifts.

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You have to take an assessment and

then wherever you think is going to be

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the easiest for you to make progress.

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Start making progress just

a little bit at a time.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah, I was about

to say like, it doesn't, anything

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is better than nothing, right?

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Like it doesn't have to be.

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Big or grandiose.

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Mm hmm.

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Absolutely.

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To be, to be considered

something that counts.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Yeah.

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And I love you have a resource that,

that you are helping people with.

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It's this free course that you have.

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Would you love to tell

people more about that?

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Sofia Adler: Yeah.

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So, I have an astrology for self

care course, and it is free,

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you can get it on my website.

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Um, and it's really a tool for helping

people understand how to use astrology as

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more than just like a pop culture thing

and a party trick, and really use it as a

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tool that can allow you to get into better

relationship with yourself and to help

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you figure out and understand and give you

permission as well around what you need.

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around how you can support

yourself so that you can go

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out and make these big changes.

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Yes.

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So, so that, because that's a thing.

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If you don't feel supported, if

you don't have your own back, it's

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a lot harder to make these shifts.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Yeah, it really is.

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And I think on the topic of like, just

putting what you need first, like that's

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something that you also help people

with, like how to step from this kind

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of mindset of like, I I'm here to help

other people and that's kind of like comes

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before anything that has to do with me.

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No, it's like, how do we get from

feeling like everybody else's

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needs are more important than ours.

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Like you have also another resource that

you use to help people with that as well.

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Sofia Adler: Yeah.

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And I think, I think too, we Especially

for my high achievers out there.

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You can have big goals and big dreams

and big ideas, but they don't have

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to come at the sacrifice of yourself.

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You know, like you, I think people

are so quick to shove down their

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needs, their desires, their feelings.

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in order to get the thing, create

the thing, accomplish the thing.

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And I'm really a big believer,

and use astrology with my clients

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to help them with this, that you

are just important as your goals.

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You get to exist alongside them.

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You don't have to give up on your

goals to prioritize yourself.

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And also, prioritizing yourself doesn't

mean that your goals are less important.

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You get to be one of those goals.

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Dorrissa Griffin: Absolutely.

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That's a really powerful message.

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I think a lot of people forget that in

the day to day churn of going from one

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thing to the next and having me after

another and all these responsibilities

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that you get to be your own goal.

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Having that sense of prioritizing

you is just so powerful.

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: 00:37:28

I see we have a new visitor.

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Let's get this.

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: 00:37:32

Um,

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Sofia Adler: this is Penny.

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Hi Penny.

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: 00:37:35

Hi Penny.

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Penny is a Sagittarius.

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I guess.

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Um, she also is an 11 pound

dog and hikes 10 plus miles, so

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she's definitely a Sagittarius.

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But since we started today, it has, the

reason I looked to the side earlier is

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that we had a hailstorm and now it's

kind of snowing, but there's also thunder

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and Penny's very afraid of thunder.

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So that is why she ran over here.

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And decided to join us.

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: 00:38:03

Dorrissa Griffin: Penny's

like, I need mama now.

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: 00:38:06

Yeah, exactly.

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: 00:38:07

Exactly.

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: 00:38:08

Wow.

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: 00:38:09

That's a lot going on.

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: 00:38:10

And you said you're in New Mexico.

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: 00:38:13

Beautiful.

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: 00:38:14

That is really beautiful.

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: 00:38:16

I love that.

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: 00:38:17

Well, yeah, I'm so, so glad for this

time that, that we've had together.

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And I love to close and wrap up my podcast

with asking the "Three Wise" question.

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And, um, just like the gifts of the

Magi, I would love to know three

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sayings, sages, or sounds that have

helped you on your cosmic journey.

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: 00:38:43

And that could be.

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: 00:38:45

Books or people, those are the stages.

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Sayings can be affirmations

or principles that you follow.

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: 00:38:53

And then sounds can be music

or films that have helped you.

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Just three, three of those.

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: 00:39:04

Hmm.

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: 00:39:05

Sofia Adler: Um, sayings.

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I'm a cyclical being.

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I'm not meant to be on all the time.

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: 00:39:14

That is honestly my own,

learned from the planets.

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: 00:39:20

Another is the more fun I

have, the more money I make.

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: 00:39:26

That's a great affirmation, right?

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: 00:39:28

And it kind of speaks to this, you know,

it, I can get serious and in my head too.

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: 00:39:33

So that's a reminder of like,

it's valuable to have fun.

667

: 00:39:35

It's valuable to go do

things and enjoy yourself.

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: 00:39:37

That also contributes to business.

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: 00:39:40

Um, and just because it's top of

mind, a sound that I've really been

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: 00:39:47

loving lately is birds chirping.

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: 00:39:49

Spring is coming, birds are chirping,

and it just feels like everything's

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: 00:39:55

coming back, coming back, coming back

to life, coming out of hibernation.

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: 00:39:59

Dorrissa Griffin: Wow, that's beautiful.

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: 00:40:00

I love that first message that you gave.

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: 00:40:04

We're all cyclical beings and I

don't have to be on all the time.

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: 00:40:07

Like, wow, I'm going

to steal that from you.

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: 00:40:12

Please do.

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: 00:40:12

Please, please do.

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: 00:40:14

Yes.

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: 00:40:14

Well, it's been so fun.

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: 00:40:16

I would love to know how we can

stay connected with you or where.

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: 00:40:20

We can find out more about, about you.

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: 00:40:24

Sofia Adler: Yes.

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So, you can follow me on Instagram.

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: 00:40:28

It's Sofia Adler underscore, I

spell my name with an F, not a PH.

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: 00:40:32

And also my website, Sofiaadler.

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: 00:40:34

com.

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: 00:40:34

You can find information there about

booking sessions, more about astrology,

689

: 00:40:38

grab that free self care course that

we were talking about earlier today.

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: 00:40:43

And I would love to hear from you.

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: 00:40:45

So definitely, if you're listening

to this, reach out, say hi.

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: 00:40:49

Such a pleasure and an honor to have

been here today, and I look forward to

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: 00:40:54

staying connected and talking to you soon.

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: 00:40:56

Hey,

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: 00:40:56

Dorrissa Griffin: thank

you so much, Sofia.

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: 00:40:58

This has been awesome.

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: 00:40:59

I've really enjoyed getting to know you

and the cutie pie you have with you.

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: 00:41:05

Thank you.

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: 00:41:07

Well, uh, Go and check

out Sofia's website.

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As she said, she has so many

great resources available to

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help you and support you on

your cosmic journey as well.

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: 00:41:18

Thank you for joining us

on Confidence by the STARS.

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: 00:42:04

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: 00:42:06

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